1752: Pell-Mell

It's a part of growing up.

Social media give this through empathy

ITM,

As a former teacher with a currently teacher wife. I really resonated with your discussion of the nice community. When I taught at a Catholic School, I could not teach religion since I’m not Catholic so I had make up an elective. I chose to do a dance class since I took one in college. The kids LOVED it! Also, it was a BALLROOM dance class. We did swing, thumbs, Waltz, cha cha, salsa and some line dances thrown in there for fun. I had a female teacher be my partner to demonstrate for the kids.

After your discussion, I’m considering if I could do something at my wife’s school. It is really important to teach kids how to interact with the opposite sex and dance class is an important part. However, I think parent’s are ultimately responsible for this. They’ve given responsibility over to the schools to raise their children. In an ideal world, this would be make sense but unfortunately schools are not trustworthy like so many institutions.

TYFYC,

Sir Kyle the Fearless

Jedi Knight of the Orange Fleet

Hey fellas,

We used to have "Junior Assembly". I was a terrible dancer.

We are raising a young man here. He has a good head on his shoulders thanks to his mom. However, the battle is real and everyday.

Adam you've mentioned Coddling of the American Mind many times. Canceling of the American Mind was a good read as well.

A more focused book, slightly dated from 2016, hits quite a few nails on the head:

Man Interrupted by Philip Zimbardo & Nikita Coulombe.

Thanks and talk to you soon,

Matt

Not really sure this is a boots on the ground report I'd want to admit to or not. . . but thought I should weigh in anyway. You're welcome to use any of this on-air provided that I remain anonymous. I'm 40 and would probably be judged by the M5M looneys as being an incel. My last serious relationship ended close to 20 years ago and dates have been sparse since then. It isn't for lack of trying or for a shortage of women who have my attention. I see the major problem as societal issues. I graduated high school in 2003 and had plenty of "forced social" events as John put it. Dance lessons in school, high school dances, social activities, etc. I don't really know how to describe things in a short order, but as basically as I can put it is that most of the women in my dating range have been spoon fed from birth the idea that they're supposed to be with someone who is "all put together". . . money, career, house, car, boat, expensive exotic vacations, etc., and the part that gets left out in those fairy tales is that those types of people are usually massively in debt to creditors and are probably womanizers, alcoholics and/or drug abusers. . . or they inherited their money and are all of the above plus lack any practical skills. Parents, television, movies (and now social media) pushes the idea that a person with all the benefits, even if a complete jerk, is better than someone with nothing but a kind heart and positive attitude. Also gone from the scene these days is casual dating. I consider myself to be the tail-end of Gen X, though technically I could also be considered a baby boomer as my father was part of the Greatest Generation and didn't marry until he was in his 50s. The older generations would casually date, sometimes multiple partners getting to know each other and then go steady with the one you were most compatible with. Women these days won't go on a date with you unless you "check all the boxes". Skills, logic, practically, morals all take a back seat to money. Online dating is an absolute farce. I don't even like to kiss on the first date let alone jump in bed and I'm reasonably certain I didn't get second dates with some people simply because the first date didn't end in sex. I'm a Christian and have been a believer most of my life. I have seldom let ridicule from non-believers bother me but when "good Christian women" that I got along well with would turn me down for a date because I didn't have swollen money bags or a job with good benefits, that burned like a hot poker. My dream was always to find someone who in Biblical terms would be my "help meet". Not a slave or subserviant, and certainly not some kind of dom, either; but rather someone who would be supportive, and yet a realist, working together to build a strong relationship and a life we didn't need a vacation from. Perhaps a bit fanciful, but attainable. As the years roll by I grow more skeptical, but have faith and remain hopeful. Apologies for the length, and I hope perhaps it's helpful in some way.

ITM Adam, this may be an isolated incident , let's hope . Sunday am. ,I ran across a news item on a Bay Area Fox affiliate station . Sorry , don't know how to send it but you can find it . Fox Channel 2 San Francisco .This guy lives in a quiet cul de sac in Novato , his cyber truck was vandalized with a cinder block and tires were slashed . Because of your awesome show 1750 with so much humor and info. , I thought I might offer a mild correction to John's statement that he thinks there are no Tesla attacks going on in the Bay Area . Like I say , Hope this won't become common , and hard to know unless you pull up those local channels ,; I was glad they covered this one , Love the show , your courage is greatly appreciated ! Love, Leslie